Posts Tagged ‘Psychology’

If you want to be a coach, if you want to help others live the life of their dreams, then you really should have made significant progress towards your own goals. Secondly, you must learn to have the proper motivation for helping other people. When we love the people we want to help as ourselves, then we are truly ready to coach. But only a few people know how to truly love themselves. And that is a barrier to becoming a great coach.

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Think about what you can trade off in your everyday life so that you are spending more of your valuable time on what really matters. What unimportant things can you replace with more important activities? Fill in the chart below realistically, replacing those unimportant things with something small and easy that, over a period of time, will make a difference in your life. Create a new, more valuable schedule for your average day—one that invests your time wisely. It doesn’t have to be hard and the changes don’t have to be huge. Don’t make this into a big production or make it so difficult that you can’t do it. Keep it easy.
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1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life – In a society where people blame everything from their parents to the government for failure, those who don’t buy into this mentality or succumb to the “victim” thinking succeed. To blame something or somebody outside yourself is saying they have control of your life and not you. Someone else’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality.
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1. Poor people donate money – rich people donate time because it is more valuable to them.

2. Rich people don’t use the word maybe – they prefer a straight yes or no.

3. Poor people concentrate on cash flow and earnings while rich people focus on increasing net worth.

4. Rich people experience the same fears and hesitancies as any one but realize procrastination costs money.

5. Poor people worry about making the right decision – rich people analyze the facts and then decide anyway – as often as not using their gut feel.

Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Are you sitting comfortably? I’ll bet you are. Or if not, you pretty soon will be! Because we humans like our comforts don’t we? We live in nice homes that we fill with cozy furniture and surround ourselves with things and people that we feel at ease with.

This week’s Post is all about being comfortable or, more particularly, your comfort zone, how it limits you and how you can break out of it.

There are two types of comfort – physical, where we want to experience wellbeing, and emotional where we just feel right about or simply accept what we are doing.

In the second type, some people – not us of course – are actually only comfy being miserable, moaning about life or complaining about their health. You know them, don’t you? Even uncomfortable clothing can be comfortable if it gives us an emotional check mark that we are conforming to fashion.

It’s the same with work or business projects: we get settled into a job and a particular way of doing things. We know the people we like to work with and avoid those we don’t.

We stick with it because it becomes our comfort zone – the set of things we are prepared to do without becoming anxious – inhabiting an area where it seems there’s no sense of risk.

And, as I’ve suggested, it doesn’t even have to be nice in there – plenty of people wallow in comfort zones of poverty, inadequacy and misfortune, with no apparent desire to get out.

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Imagine having personal coaching by the worlds best authorities on any topic you care to imagine? Great speakers, teachers, philosophers, and books are available on audio and you can play them at your leisure. My best teachers have come to me through audiotapes. And the best thing is that it is just so convenient. Through audiotapes and CDs, my mentors show up on my schedule. I can listen in my car, on an airplane, in my office, or lying by the pool. I heard once that during our lifetime the amount of time spent in our car is the same amount of time it takes to earn the equivalent of four PhD programs.

You can use that windshield time to learn how to do almost anything: become rich, more successful, a better leader, or a more effective parent. You name it and I bet there is an audio program available on it. You can even learn how to lose weight by listening to audiotapes—although the best way to lose weight is to stop putting so much food in your mouth!

I have thousands of dollars invested in my audio library. It is one of my most prized possessions. I am convinced that my audio library has had a bigger influence on my life than any other educational source.

In fact, I have three degrees – but the time I have used listening to experts driving to and from university was more valuable to me than the degrees I earned!

Three Qualities Millionaire’s build their Philosophy on a backbone of:

• Mastery
• Success
• Charity

Let me explain in more detail. Mastery refers to continual self-improvement, mastery of oneself; being as financially successful as possible, building vast wealth; and assisting others less fortunate than oneself, being philanthropic.
The potent nature of mastery, success and charity are found in these three highly empowering character traits common to all

Millionaires:

#1 They LEARN… increasing their treasure house of knowledge through continual study and mastering life principles through self-advancement. They seek personal mastery.

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When we go to the bank for a loan they look at our debt ratio by calculating how much we spend on housing, how much we spend using credit cards, etc. Depending on the percentages (and of course, by our credit rating) they agree or don’t agree to lend us the money we requested.
If you were to take one week and calculate your percentage for:

• Time spent at work
• Time spent with your family and friends
• Time spent improving yourself (whether by taking a course or reading a book, etc.)
• Time spent relaxing
• Time spent sleeping

What would your ratio be? Would you say you had a balanced life?

To keep our credit in good standing, we need to ensure we keep an eye on the percentages of where our money is being allocated. If we don’t do this, we could end up with not being able to borrow money. The same principle applies to our time. Are we allocating our time in the right percentages? At times, it is difficult to keep a proper balance in our lives. But, over time, an improper balance will lead to problems such as:

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Is there a reason for your current circumstances?

Everything happens for a reason. Despite how it seems, coincidences simply do not exist. Each seeming coincidence has within it a seed of reason. Consequences come attached to the actions that cause them – there are no coincidences. What you reap is what you sow!

If you’re not getting what you expected from life, ask yourself what it is you need to do better, or different, to achieve what you want. Do you follow through on your promises? Are you honest? Do you show a true interest in people, especially those you are working with? Do you treat others, as you would like them to treat you? Have you secretly given up hope, simply because you failed once before? Are you afraid to begin your new assignment, doubtful you will be successful? Do you focus on people’s faults, telling them what bothers you about them, when in fact you are jealous and wish you were more like them?

In addition and most important – are you honest with yourself? Do you think of yourself the way you think about others? Do you love yourself like you love others? Do you feel you are worthy of everything you desire?

Life always gives you what you are looking for.

Success is a consequence of belief, so be careful what you believe as it will surely come true!
Even if you are lucky today, this isn’t a coincidence. Where you are today is not a coincidence. Ask yourself what you want from your life.
Is what you are doing today what you want to do forever?
Is your family life everything you hoped it would be?
Do you take enough time for you or have time for your hobbies?

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All of us have got dreams we aspire to attain in our lives. These dreams come from people who inspire us. We may dream of making $15,000 a month, owning a sports car and living in a million dollar mansion. At the same time, based on our beliefs, we also have what I call our ‘Altitude of Acceptance’.

This Altitude means that though you may aspire to earn $20,000 a month, you are willing to accept earning $2000 a month. Although you would love to live in a million dollar house, you are quite willing to settle for a small apartment. Although you would love to be at an ideal weight of 72kg, you are willing to live life at 90kg.

Our self-image is what determines our level of expectation and level of acceptance in life.

Would you like to make a guess which level we would tend most to gravitate towards? That’s right. We always get what we are willing to accept.

Unless we raise our acceptance levels, we will never do what is necessary to achieve our goals. So, for example if you want to make more money, you have to raise your standards of what you are willing to accept.

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